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Subject: Struggeling with discipline

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Clarissa

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Date Posted: 10:20:34 03/03/23 Fri

Hello

I’m a recently widowed mother of 4. We lost my husband last to a work accident last year. You can imagine that things have been rough for the children and me, but thankfully we had our church community to lean on. Especially our pastor and is wife where a god send, both spiritually as well as in practical matters. I can’t imagine how I would have made it through the last 10 month without their support. Things are slowly going back to some semblance of normalcy now.

There is one area of concern however and that is the children’s behavior. This is to a large extend my own fault, my husband was always the disciplinarian in our home, and I have struggled to fulfill that role. In the first couple of months, I convinced myself it was expected that children act up a bit and that I should be more lenient. I led behaviors slide, that previously would have earned them a good long paddling by my husband. Especially the older two didn’t react well, my husband would be appalled by some their behaviors. After talking to our pastor, I realized I wasn’t doing them any favors with this, so I tried to strictly enforce the old rules and spank them when necessary, but things haven’t gone well. I just can’t bring myself to properly spank them. Intellectually I understand it’s necessary, but as soon as the first tears flow, I can’t bring myself to go through with it. I know I’m failing them and pray every day to find the strength to do right by them, but so far those prayers haven’t been answered. Maybe someone he had similar struggles and can offer some advice. I also considered to ask our pastor to step in and take over the spanking, but I’m unsure if this is appropriate or not. I know he spanks his own children, but I don’t want to be a bigger burden then I already am.

Clarissa

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Replies:

Subject	Author	Date
Re: Struggeling with discipline	Kristina	06:51:11 03/05/23 Sun
Re: Struggeling with discipline -- Michael, 17:10:06 03/27/23 Mon
Re: Struggeling with discipline	Mark	23:31:33 03/05/23 Sun