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Subject: Confession Time & My Family’s Story

Author:
Jen

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Date Posted: 16:16:23 02/06/24 Tue

Hi everyone!

I’m Jen but I was posting here under the name Heather. I have three wonderful boys that are 5, 7, and 10. We are your typical Christian family who believe in first time obedience and traditional parenting which includes spankings. But we also practice something called diaper discipline (I’ll explain more later). This form of discipline is admittedly controversial.

I was posting under the name “Jen” for years on diaper discipline forums but most have little activity and many conversations are on subjects that don’t deal with DD and can be frankly concerning. I still wanted to share with likeminded parents who believe in old fashioned discipline but recognized that DD stuff found on other forums could be offensive. So out of respect to others I changed my name and never discussed DD here. However, I decided to take a risk and confess that we use DD and explain what it is and isn’t.

Diaper discipline is a gentle way of maintaining discipline and reinforcing taking personal responsibility and encouraging growth. The focus is on gentle. Yes, spanking is involved if the child doesn’t cooperate but when the child does it is not necessary.

Putting an older potty trained child in diapers and age regressing them serves as a reminder to behave and act their age. For example instead of a child having a sore bottom for the day to remind them to behave they could wear a diaper which they feel very self conscious about. DD also helps to reinforce that the parents have total control over everything including the potty. There are many many other benefits that I can write paragraphs on but in the interest of simplicity I’ll talk about how we got started and our rules.

My three boys have struggled with bedwetting and encopresis. When my 10 YO was a toddler I was researching discipline and stumbled upon DD. After years of potty training, encopresis and bedwetting I found it to be the perfect tool for discipline.

The boys would have accidents and not tell an adult. They didn’t take personal responsibility.

So how does DD work in our house?

First and foremost I want to stress the boys wear regular underwear like 95% of the time. They wear underwear to school, sports, friend’s houses, etc. They are normal athletic fun loving boys.

The 5 & 7 YOs wear pull-ups during the weekend, while traveling or special events like holidays or weddings. While at school the teacher reminds them to go to the bathroom, they have a potty schedule.

What can trigger DD?

Repeated regular accidents, hiding soiled clothes, lying, or acting overly immature. We can also do DD whenever we see fit too.

Our household rules for DD are simple (these apply to the 10 YO too but he rarely needs it).

If they have an accident in underwear and tell an adult then they wear a Pull-Up the rest of the day, no spanking.

If they have an accident in a Pull-Up and tell an adult then no punishment.

If they have an accident in either underwear or a Pull-Up and don’t tell an adult, hide it, or lie then it is a spanking and DD.

Under DD:
Diaper stays on and cannot be removed and must be used
They can ask to be changed only once. No means no!
We might increase the punishment by adding extras like bottles, bibs, pacifiers, playpen etc.

The 7 YO is small for his age and very comfortably fits in a Huggies Size 6 diaper and Pull-Ups now makes a T5-T6 so he will have a couple of years left in Pull-Ups.

I really believe in DD. We rarely need to do maintenance spankings (haven’t done one in nearly 2 months) and it’s a great way to keep them under control.

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: Confession Time & My Family’s Story	Cole	17:09:35 02/06/24 Tue
Re: Confession Time & My Family’s Story -- Jen, 14:35:09 02/07/24 Wed Re: Confession Time & My Family’s Story -- Cole, 12:18:06 02/09/24 Fri Re: Confession Time & My Family’s Story -- Anne1, 09:30:54 02/10/24 Sat