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Subject: Importance of schedule and strict discipline


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Siobhan
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Date Posted: 16:51:43 03/20/24 Wed

Hello
Together with my husband we are raising three daughters who are 7,10 and 13. I have been brought up in a Christian family, the family that have believed in a deep love and strict discipline.
I loved reading many wonderful threads here, and I would love to give back to community.
I have gotten asked a few questions about spanking and managing our day from Samantha and Terrence, I hope to shed some light and intricate details with you by writing this post.

The other day I had a wonderful discussion with my sister. We talked about importance of being organised and providing for our children. I thought about sharing with you our routines, but also our approach to spanking itself.
The post might turn out to be quite lengthy, but I believe that it can be insightful for some, and I would love nothing more but to hear back about your days.

First, and foremost I believe to be a loving and deeply cherishing mother. I do everything I can to fulfil my children’s lives with as much joy as I can. The second thing about me, is that I am strict, I punish my girls often and severely, and I oversee every aspect of their lives. I except obedience and I do not tolerate talking back.

Our typical school day starts for my daughters at 6AM. My husband prepares the breakfast and I wake up our girls. The day starts with morning prayer and a warm meal eaten together.
While our three sleepy pumpkins finish off their plates, I prepare fresh clothes in the dressing room for each one of them. I choose the clothes for them simply because it is easier to manage and schedule laundry when girls wear matching colours and material types.
Once everything is ready, I call my girls to the bathroom. In the past we had tried to schedule their turns, but that had let to many problems, fights and spanking that could have been avoided. Now I collect my daughter’s nightshirts at the entrance, and they go in together. We have renovated the bathroom with bigger sink so they can wash together.
I oversee my daughter’s hygiene making sure that they do not split out the toothpaste after 10 seconds, and I give each one a quick shower myself, washing off nightly sweat. My oldest is quite independent already, but her two younger sisters often forget one thing or another.
I help them towel and we go together to the dress room, where girls get dressed for school.
I have to say that our current routine where girls are together under my watchful eye works much better from our previous routine where we tried to make queues to bathroom.

My girls go to school and my husband, and I go to work. I am always home first, and I take the cooking duty. After school, girls are allowed to stay and play with their friends. Few times a week my husband finishes his work earlier and he takes the girls out for an important daughter-father bonding time.
4:30PM is the curfew for all of them. When girls come home, I expect them to change their school clothes and wash their hands. We eat at 5PM. After we are done it is time for girls to finish their homework and study until 7PM, when I start preparing girls to bed starting from the youngest.

I believe that although the time spent together is extremely valuable, each child needs a one on time. Each girl gets an hour with me, where we are alone and they often tell me their little “secrets”, and other things. I ask how they feel, how was their day if anything good happened, anything bad. It is very important time for them and for me.

Hour by hour I repeat the same routine with each one.
I take my daughter to the dressing room, where I help her undress, and we go to the bathroom where a hot bath is already waiting for her. I help her wash making sure to teach her good hygiene habits. Usually when my daughter sits reflexed in the bathtub is when they are the most open and honest with me. I always include a lot of tickles beside the washing to make the experience fun for them. Then I wrap a given daughter in her bath towel, and I lead her to bedroom. The youngest is still small enough to be carried 😊.
In their bedroom our roles change. I have listen to my daughters first, and now it is time for them to listen to me. I praise good behaviour, and I punish daily any minor disobedience with hand spanking. When any of my daughters shows attitude during the day, there is some minor back talking, and so on, I give them a hand spanking at bedtime. Those minor spankings are not severe, but they happen almost every other day. It is rare for my husband to not hear at least one of the girls crying and begging me to stop. Yes, crying. It is a spanking, not just a pat or two on their bottoms.
I explain my girls what they had done wrong, I unwrap their towels, and I lay them over my lap. Usually, I am satisfied with making them cry, and then I spank for additional minute or two. The spanking finishes with me soothing my daughters in my embrace and helping them dress for the night. I do not allow any underwear nor socks to bed. I believe that skin at night has to breath, and my girls go to bed wearing only longer night shirts, or gowns during the winter.

Once a week, sometimes two, depending on our daughter’s behaviour, they receive a major spanking for the things they had done wrong.
The major spanking is scheduled the next day, and we have to do some changed to our day to give our daughter enough time for her disciplinary session.
I had spanked my oldest daughter yesterday. Amelia had been rude to the teacher, and she have come home with a red note. Right after dinner I gave my daughter her usual bath, but instead of her bedroom we went to the living room where dad was waiting.
My oldest daughter is very scared of being spanked, and she never follows instructions. After a scolding I asked her to take off her towel and bend over the sofa arm. Nothing. I asked firmer, Amelia please bend over the arm and lay on your father’s lap. Still nothing. I had to take her arm and lead her to the sofa, and then push on her back gently to make her lie over. It always earns her a bonus.
Once she fell chest first on her daddy’s lap he held her hands away with one hand, and pulled her further up, until her feet could no longer touch the ground. I gently lifted my daughter and I put a sturdy pillow underneath her belly, so her bottom was higher than her head.

I have bought what is basically a piece of rubber on a stick. Quite similar to the hairbrush in size. A small handle, a bit narrow, about 2 inches wide, 5 inches long, and quite fat actually. The first layer is soft, incredibly smooth, but then it feels sturdy. When the package arrived and I tapped it against my skin I knew it will be quite an upgrade, but it was way more than that.
I keep the rubber part well maintained and oiled. It is moist to the touch. I love this implement. It does not just sting. It burns. Even a light tap hurts a lot. Yet, it is gentle on the skin. A perfect tool for long spankings.

When I placed the rubber against my daughter’s bottom, she burst crying in full trying to break free. Sadly, for her, she couldn’t budge an inch from her position.
I spank meticulously. I applied the first layer of swats all around my daughter’s bottom, but also halfway to her knees. Using my left hand I often pull the skin on her bottom to have a better access to all the crevasses, spanking just under her bottom is truly painful. I also spread her legs apart and I spanked the inside part of a thigh. Just under the groin, making my way downwards.
It usually takes a minute to mark all the areas with delicate shade of pink. My daughter spanking lasted around 15 minutes, and by the end of it all those areas turned crimson red.
My daughter went through all the usual stages of the spanking. Crying, begging me to stop, begging daddy to let her go, kicking her legs, shivering. Around 10th minute mark she finally gave up her fighting and accepted the rest of her punishment. Mostly whimpering quietly, but I did include repeated swats that landed on the same place until she howled in pain on few occasions.

Once I was done with the spanking part I gave Amelia a deep embrace. She cried for a minute with her face in my chest, and then she went to her dad for additional cuddles and soothing, while I attended to her sisters, following up with the routine I have told you about earlier.
My husband soothed Amelia in her hands until she stopped crying. Then he carried her like a little princess to the bathroom again for a quick shower, and she got another fairy trip to her bed.
Amelia was not allowed to dress just yet, she went straight to bed, and my husband stayed with her until she fell asleep.

Today in the morning I woke Amelia last while everyone was already in the kitchen getting ready to eat. Still naked I marched Amelia to the kitchen. She had to tell everyone why she had been punished day before. Then she had to tell them how she would repair her mistake (by apologising to the teacher). Finally, she led our morning prayers, and I pulled her night-shirt over her head, and helped her dress. Her punishment was over, and I do have a rule that kids have to be dressed at the table.

This is how we spank and organise our day. Even our youngest daughter is spanked with the same rubbery tool, but I do adjust the spankings length and severity to the crime, but also child’s age.

Our weekends are just about the same. The only exception is that instead of school we partake in many Church activities with other families. But often we like to spend our time only as family and we take our children to the park, or we organise a small trip.

Thank you for reading, I would love to hear back from you, and I wish you and your family all the best.
Sincerely, Siobhan

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Re: Importance of schedule and strict disciplineEmily04:42:05 05/08/24 Wed
Re: Importance of schedule and strict disciplinehervee (to Siobhan)01:43:39 05/13/24 Mon


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