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>>Hello >>Together with my husband we are raising three >>daughters who are 7,10 and 13. I have been brought up >>in a Christian family, the family that have believed >>in a deep love and strict discipline. >>I loved reading many wonderful threads here, and I >>would love to give back to community. >>I have gotten asked a few questions about spanking and >>managing our day from Samantha and Terrence, I hope to >>shed some light and intricate details with you by >>writing this post. >> >>The other day I had a wonderful discussion with my >>sister. We talked about importance of being organised >>and providing for our children. I thought about >>sharing with you our routines, but also our approach >>to spanking itself. >>The post might turn out to be quite lengthy, but I >>believe that it can be insightful for some, and I >>would love nothing more but to hear back about your >>days. >> >>First, and foremost I believe to be a loving and >>deeply cherishing mother. I do everything I can to >>fulfil my children’s lives with as much joy as I >>can. The second thing about me, is that I am strict, I >>punish my girls often and severely, and I oversee >>every aspect of their lives. I except obedience and I >>do not tolerate talking back. >> >>Our typical school day starts for my daughters at 6AM. >>My husband prepares the breakfast and I wake up our >>girls. The day starts with morning prayer and a warm >>meal eaten together. >>While our three sleepy pumpkins finish off their >>plates, I prepare fresh clothes in the dressing room >>for each one of them. I choose the clothes for them >>simply because it is easier to manage and schedule >>laundry when girls wear matching colours and material >>types. >>Once everything is ready, I call my girls to the >>bathroom. In the past we had tried to schedule their >>turns, but that had let to many problems, fights and >>spanking that could have been avoided. Now I collect >>my daughter’s nightshirts at the entrance, and they >>go in together. We have renovated the bathroom with >>bigger sink so they can wash together. >>I oversee my daughter’s hygiene making sure that >>they do not split out the toothpaste after 10 seconds, >>and I give each one a quick shower myself, washing off >>nightly sweat. My oldest is quite independent already, >>but her two younger sisters often forget one thing or >>another. >>I help them towel and we go together to the dress >>room, where girls get dressed for school. >>I have to say that our current routine where girls are >>together under my watchful eye works much better from >>our previous routine where we tried to make queues to >>bathroom. >> >>My girls go to school and my husband, and I go to >>work. I am always home first, and I take the cooking >>duty. After school, girls are allowed to stay and play >>with their friends. Few times a week my husband >>finishes his work earlier and he takes the girls out >>for an important daughter-father bonding time. >>4:30PM is the curfew for all of them. When girls come >>home, I expect them to change their school clothes and >>wash their hands. We eat at 5PM. After we are done it >>is time for girls to finish their homework and study >>until 7PM, when I start preparing girls to bed >>starting from the youngest. >> >>I believe that although the time spent together is >>extremely valuable, each child needs a one on time. >>Each girl gets an hour with me, where we are alone and >>they often tell me their little “secrets”, and >>other things. I ask how they feel, how was their day >>if anything good happened, anything bad. It is very >>important time for them and for me. >> >>Hour by hour I repeat the same routine with each one. >>I take my daughter to the dressing room, where I help >>her undress, and we go to the bathroom where a hot >>bath is already waiting for her. I help her wash >>making sure to teach her good hygiene habits. Usually >>when my daughter sits reflexed in the bathtub is when >>they are the most open and honest with me. I always >>include a lot of tickles beside the washing to make >>the experience fun for them. Then I wrap a given >>daughter in her bath towel, and I lead her to bedroom. >>The youngest is still small enough to be carried 😊. >>In their bedroom our roles change. I have listen to my >>daughters first, and now it is time for them to listen >>to me. I praise good behaviour, and I punish daily any >>minor disobedience with hand spanking. When any of my >>daughters shows attitude during the day, there is some >>minor back talking, and so on, I give them a hand >>spanking at bedtime. Those minor spankings are not >>severe, but they happen almost every other day. It is >>rare for my husband to not hear at least one of the >>girls crying and begging me to stop. Yes, crying. It >>is a spanking, not just a pat or two on their bottoms. >>I explain my girls what they had done wrong, I unwrap >>their towels, and I lay them over my lap. Usually, I >>am satisfied with making them cry, and then I spank >>for additional minute or two. The spanking finishes >>with me soothing my daughters in my embrace and >>helping them dress for the night. I do not allow any >>underwear nor socks to bed. I believe that skin at >>night has to breath, and my girls go to bed wearing >>only longer night shirts, or gowns during the winter. >> >>Once a week, sometimes two, depending on our >>daughter’s behaviour, they receive a major spanking >>for the things they had done wrong. >>The major spanking is scheduled the next day, and we >>have to do some changed to our day to give our >>daughter enough time for her disciplinary session. >>I had spanked my oldest daughter yesterday. Amelia had >>been rude to the teacher, and she have come home with >>a red note. Right after dinner I gave my daughter her >>usual bath, but instead of her bedroom we went to the >>living room where dad was waiting. >>My oldest daughter is very scared of being spanked, >>and she never follows instructions. After a scolding I >>asked her to take off her towel and bend over the sofa >>arm. Nothing. I asked firmer, Amelia please bend over >>the arm and lay on your father’s lap. Still nothing. >>I had to take her arm and lead her to the sofa, and >>then push on her back gently to make her lie over. It >>always earns her a bonus. >>Once she fell chest first on her daddy’s lap he held >>her hands away with one hand, and pulled her further >>up, until her feet could no longer touch the ground. I >>gently lifted my daughter and I put a sturdy pillow >>underneath her belly, so her bottom was higher than >>her head. >> >>I have bought what is basically a piece of rubber on a >>stick. Quite similar to the hairbrush in size. A small >>handle, a bit narrow, about 2 inches wide, 5 inches >>long, and quite fat actually. The first layer is soft, >>incredibly smooth, but then it feels sturdy. When the >>package arrived and I tapped it against my skin I knew >>it will be quite an upgrade, but it was way more than >>that. >>I keep the rubber part well maintained and oiled. It >>is moist to the touch. I love this implement. It does >>not just sting. It burns. Even a light tap hurts a >>lot. Yet, it is gentle on the skin. A perfect tool for >>long spankings. >> >>When I placed the rubber against my daughter’s >>bottom, she burst crying in full trying to break free. >>Sadly, for her, she couldn’t budge an inch from her >>position. >>I spank meticulously. I applied the first layer of >>swats all around my daughter’s bottom, but also >>halfway to her knees. Using my left hand I often pull >>the skin on her bottom to have a better access to all >>the crevasses, spanking just under her bottom is truly >>painful. I also spread her legs apart and I spanked >>the inside part of a thigh. Just under the groin, >>making my way downwards. >>It usually takes a minute to mark all the areas with >>delicate shade of pink. My daughter spanking lasted >>around 15 minutes, and by the end of it all those >>areas turned crimson red. >>My daughter went through all the usual stages of the >>spanking. Crying, begging me to stop, begging daddy to >>let her go, kicking her legs, shivering. Around 10th >>minute mark she finally gave up her fighting and >>accepted the rest of her punishment. Mostly whimpering >>quietly, but I did include repeated swats that landed >>on the same place until she howled in pain on few >>occasions. >> >>Once I was done with the spanking part I gave Amelia a >>deep embrace. She cried for a minute with her face in >>my chest, and then she went to her dad for additional >>cuddles and soothing, while I attended to her sisters, >>following up with the routine I have told you about >>earlier. >>My husband soothed Amelia in her hands until she >>stopped crying. Then he carried her like a little >>princess to the bathroom again for a quick shower, and >>she got another fairy trip to her bed. >>Amelia was not allowed to dress just yet, she went >>straight to bed, and my husband stayed with her until >>she fell asleep. >> >>Today in the morning I woke Amelia last while everyone >>was already in the kitchen getting ready to eat. Still >>naked I marched Amelia to the kitchen. She had to tell >>everyone why she had been punished day before. Then >>she had to tell them how she would repair her mistake >>(by apologising to the teacher). Finally, she led our >>morning prayers, and I pulled her night-shirt over her >>head, and helped her dress. Her punishment was over, >>and I do have a rule that kids have to be dressed at >>the table. >> >>This is how we spank and organise our day. Even our >>youngest daughter is spanked with the same rubbery >>tool, but I do adjust the spankings length and >>severity to the crime, but also child’s age. >> >>Our weekends are just about the same. The only >>exception is that instead of school we partake in many >>Church activities with other families. But often we >>like to spend our time only as family and we take our >>children to the park, or we organise a small trip. >> >>Thank you for reading, I would love to hear back from >>you, and I wish you and your family all the best. >>Sincerely, Siobhan > >i am really impressed by the way you raise your >daughters >they have the chance to be educated with love and >severity >This has unfortunately become rare in our time. >I congratulate you on your concept of education >And establishing strict rules and rituals seems >essential to me so that they feel confident >Congratulations

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