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Date Posted: 09:29:25 04/21/03 Mon
Author: Jeanne
Subject:

Funeral question

Our neighbor died of lung cancer this weekend. She was a darling old lady who with her husband have been close to us since the minute we moved in next door to them almost 7 years ago. She adored my children and spoiled them with bakery, etc. She had been sick since last summer when she was diagnosed. Julia was aware that she was very sick, but I'm not sure if she understood how sick, which of course is a hard concept to understand at this age.
She died Saturday evening and have yet to tell Julia or Jacob, because we didn't want to put a damper on their Easter festivities.
June is at peace now & in many ways, I know her family is too. She had died at home with her family taking care of with assistance of hospice care.
I do plan on telling the kids later today when I get home from work. We have a strong Christian faith in our family and Julia understands (kind of) the principle of having our time to go and see Jesus and that we will all be reunited one day, so I'm hoping she will understand that her "Grandma" June is at peace with our Lord.

Ok, my question is. Should I take Julia to the funeral? In some ways, I feel that she should perhaps go, so she can perhaps start to understand this aspect of life/death. But I also don't want her to get scared or whatever. I'm not sure, I'm so confused. To me there are pros & cons to taking her to the funeral. What would you all do?

Jeanne

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Just some random thoughts.. -- Ginger, 09:45:29 04/21/03 Mon
- one more thing... -- Ginger, 09:52:38 04/21/03 Mon
  - Thanks Ginger(M) -- Jeanne, 10:01:02 04/21/03 Mon
Here are my thoughts.....more -- marshun(Martha), 09:49:08 04/21/03 Mon
- Thanks Martha(M) -- Jeanne, 10:03:51 04/21/03 Mon
  - Jeanne...I can give you this insite as well....more -- marshun(Martha), 13:02:26 04/21/03 Mon
We had to deal with this issue in October of '01 when DH's grandfather died (m) -- donnabelle70, 10:31:07 04/21/03 Mon
- Thanks Donna(M) -- Jeanne, 11:03:30 04/21/03 Mon
Here is my experiences (had four relatives die when my oldest was 2-5).... -- jobb1, 11:01:37 04/21/03 Mon
- Thanks Jackie(M) -- Jeanne, 11:14:40 04/21/03 Mon
Well, I'm thinking...more -- arsenault, 11:20:24 04/21/03 Mon
- Janet. sounds like your "Grandma" friend across the street is a lot like June was(M) -- Jeanne, 14:20:32 04/21/03 Mon
I haven't read the others yet, but this is my opinion. . .(m) -- tutter13 (Melissa), 11:53:09 04/21/03 Mon
- Wow, Thanks Melissa. (NT) -- Jeanne, 14:13:39 04/21/03 Mon
My thoughts......(m) -- fiwee, 12:25:33 04/21/03 Mon
- Kari-thanks so much for your input, it is surprising how well some kids handle death! (NT) -- Jeanne, 14:15:31 04/21/03 Mon
My opinions (more) -- Heidi, 13:21:50 04/21/03 Mon
- Thanks Heidi(M) -- Jeanne, 14:07:07 04/21/03 Mon
- Thanks Heidi(M) -- Jeanne, 14:07:24 04/21/03 Mon
- Thanks Heidi(M) -- Jeanne, 14:08:18 04/21/03 Mon

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