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Subject: Welcome Back Heather


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Kristina
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Date Posted: 18:53:56 01/24/24 Wed
In reply to: Heather 's message, "Re: QUESTION PERIOD" on 17:39:37 01/24/24 Wed
 Thats ok, youre back now, I was away from posting consistently on here for a while too, and this is my board! lol boys are wonderful and so are girls, but maybe im biased, but boys are special and unique and ive found when you are just the right amount of strict their affectionate sensitive sides come out a bit.

I know Godly Tomato is a VeggieTales reference LOL but I am not too familiar with the Babywise and Childwise, and Ezzo, and Raising Godly Tomatoes programs

I am curious how those programs work with spankings, like what limitations and guidelines do they have for discipline?

I think its interesting to hear different peoples ways of doing things.

And offer is open to you Heather like it is for anyone else, if you need some extra support or advice or someone to talk to, my email is always open.


>I haven’t posted in nearly two months and have only
>posted a few times. Allow me to reintroduce myself,
>I’m Heather and I have three wonderful and
>rambunctious boys who are 5, 8, and 10.
>
>First, I have never ever heard of Thrills gum. I’m
>really curious now!
>
>1) yes, I think their friends know. But, especially
>for my 10 YO, I don’t think they like talking about
>it and are embarrassed because some neighborhood kids
>and teammates are not Christian and don’t practice
>FTO.
>
>2) Nope! I wished I did but we haven’t granted
>permission to other families.
>
>3) only really close family like grandparents witness
>a spanking.
>
>4) yes, both my husband and I were spanked. We do talk
>about it so they know they aren’t alone and it’s
>just part of childhood.
>
>5) it’s very effective and fair. It is very intimate
>allowing close bonding.
>
>6) we are a sports family and love the outdoors. All
>three boys play soccer and baseball. Plus we have
>season tickets for both our local MLB and MLS teams.
>We also love hiking and camping. The boys are involved
>in Trail Life too. They love Legos too!
>
>7) in regards to discipline how do others practice FTO
>in public. I don’t mean necessarily spanking but
>things like maintaining eye contact, smiling, asking
>to appeal, and responding correctly when called.
>I’ve noticed some people look at us weird when they
>see FTO in use. Also anything like how do others deal
>with bedwetting, juggling activities and home, etc.
>
>8) my husband and I were raised in a similar manner so
>there were no surprises.
>
>9) I would say no. My boys do wear uniforms to school
>that consist of blue pants and a white polo shirt.
>Most of their wardrobe is The Children’s Place, Gap,
>Nike, Under Armor, Adidas, Oshkosh, and Abercrombie
>among others.
>
>10) absolutely!!
>
>11) we have taken classes through church on First Time
>Obedience. We follow Babywise and Childwise, and Ezzo,
>and Raising Godly Tomatoes.
>
>Our FTO rules are pretty simple:
>When their name is called they answer immediately
>with, “yes, mommy (or daddy, grandma, etc.) and come
>to my husband or I. The “yes, mommy” came from the
>Childwise website and I loved it. My 10 YO is starting
>to be a little embarrassed by it around friends and
>teammates, but does say it with no problem at home.
>
>When they come they must maintain eye contact and
>smile! They are to remain silent while the adult is
>talking. When they are given instructions then they
>must answer “yes ma’am” and obey immediately
>with a happy heart. The 10 YO is allowed to ask for an
>appeal because he has demonstrated he is FTO. He will
>say, “may I appeal?” and wait for a yes or no
>reply. If I say yes then he can state his opinion. The
>8 & 5 are not allowed to appeal.
>
>The 8 & 5 YOs must ask permission for nearly
>everything. If they want to go to their room they need
>to ask. If they want a snack or drink then they need
>to ask. Pretty much everything, we keep them on a
>short leash. The 10 YO has more freedom but can have
>it taken away if we feel he’s not obedient.
>
>That’s pretty much it!!!
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