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Author: Amy to Kristina |
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Date Posted: 03:37:17 12/22/22 Thu In reply to: Kristina to Amy 's message, "Re: New thread to talk about our parenting and some questions!" on 19:05:45 12/21/22 Wed >Was tidying up a bit after getting kids down for the >night, was going to check later but i saw this message >and HAD to approve it so I could reply to it right >away! > >I have found that maintenance spankings or a review of >the weeks behavior is more common in Christian circles >than in secular ones. It is not wrong and it is not >too far etc like some say in my opinion - of course >not every family will use them and thats ok. > >We do this as well, Sunday afternoons after church, >but them being young its not as firm or long as with >older kids, but still a pretty lengthy handspanking >usually to make sure it helps them remember what we >expect. I think even at young ages, kids can be held >to certain standards, young kids understand more than >alot of parents give them credit for. > >My husband and I HAVE, though been invited into a >friends home once or twice, where they had older >children, mainly girls, to discuss them starting >weekly sessions also. > >Some ,even devout christians these days will say oh no >the bible doesnt mean that spare the rod doesnt mean >spank, but to us and the way our pastor interprets it >to mean, yes, it does mean its our duty to >discipline, soundly, SPANK, >even though its difficult for us to do and difficult >for them to take. Why? because it builds character and >self discipline, and cleanses the bible says. > >The part that spoke to my heart that made we want to >respond was about it being a way of showing love. We >are working with our two, getting them to know a >spanking as similar to a hug, an act of love that we >use as a time we can talk to them and teach them. and >bond. I am closer to my children, and it also nurtures >their emotional caring gentle sides when we >discipline. We use a phrase with them that a warm >bottom means a warm heart. > >I agree with ritual routine, as part of it asking them >questions letting them ask things , prayer too. >Consistency, so the discipline happens with the same >steps each time. > >One thing we have been working slowly into the routine >for our oldest(8) is asking politely for their >spanking once the discussion part is done with. > >and oh wow, right in front of church huh? Interesting, >I have not really heard of that before. Sounds like >something I'd feel less embarrassed asking questions >about more in private lol > >Guess I am informally answering the questions myself >lol > >There are a couple of phrases we use to warn of a >spanking coming, but the one I use most commonly is >"do you need a one on one?" or "we are having a one on >one when we get home to discuss your behavior" > >discreet enough but they certainly know what it means, >will get some tears when that is announced, but we >don't allow TOO much fussing about it especially in >public. > >I have spanked in our van, or out camping in a private >campsite, or at friends homes, theres a room for it at >church, or have used the ladies room there if the room >was occupied. Oh and a few times, at a rest stop by >side of road it was empty and secluded. bench was >behind a building so noone saw. That one my folks did >too , anyone remember those souvenir paddles small >tourist shops would have ? lol > >But the days of when I was a kid and spanked in the >ladies room at the mall (happened far more times than >id like to admit) are over I think. > >>>could we try and move any discussions here or on a >new >>>thread instead of introductions, if we could try and >>>keep that to hey, welcome! type messages that would >be >>>good ? >>> >>>I do have some questions to spark discussion! >>> >>>How often do your children need discipline? >>>What role does prayer or your faith play in >>discipline? >>>is there a routine there or just bare and spank? >>>How does everyone handle public naughtiness? >>>Does your church have a place parents can discipline? >> >>Some brief answers to your questions - looking forward >>to some discussion about them. >> >>My girls are given a regular weekly spankings partly >>to encourage good behaviour, partly to show God that >>they are sorry for any mistakes they have made and >>partly in reponse to a review of their obedience to >>the rules during the week. >> >>Discipline is faith-based in two respects. That I >>believe that it is a parent's duty to spank and that a >>spanking, itself, is a way of showing love. >> >>Ritual and routine are very much part of a spanking, >>They learn to prepare themselve beforehand, to take >>position properly and to accept their spankings with >>the correct demeanour. Quite traditional, I suppose. >> >>Public misbehaviour is a difficult one, Generally >>speaking, they are reprimanded there and then before >>being punished as soon as we arrive home. >> >>Yes my church has a room where parents can discipline >>on an informal basis. But also girls are spanked in >>front of the assembled attendees in much more formal >>sessions. >> >>. Thank you for such a wonderfully supportive and lengthy response, Kristina. It is so good that you started this forum for Christians to talk about discipline. I can see that we have very similar attitudes to it and the obligation to make spanking a basis for it. I think you are so right when you talk about maintenance spankings teaching character building and self discipline. My girls are expected to take their spankings stoically and with forbearance. In other words, no moving and the minimum amount of sound. Mainenance spankings train them to do this. Both girls can now take their spankings well when they are given them, like you, after church on Sunday. I also think that maintenance spankings are right for my girls but accept that this may not be the case with other families. My girls, too, have been taught to ask for a spanking and my elder girl can suggest how she should be spanked in terms of implement, position and how many swats etc. We discuss fully beforehand how difficult it is to both give and take a spanking. There is reassurance that it is done with love and plenty of hugs and praise afterwards. I will take that phrase on board that 'a warm bottom means a warm heart' and it will now become part of our spanking routine. Thank you! I am very happy to talk about church spankings to you, Kristina! Maybe ask any questions you have in the thread devoted to discipline in church. And please see my Bible phrases that I have posted in that thread. God bless you for your response and setting up this forum, Kristina. It helps all of us to swap experiences. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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| Re: New thread to talk about our parenting and some questions! | Kristina to Amy (Happy and Blessed) | 07:08:37 12/22/22 Thu |
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